I recently came across a website for a youth basketball program that described themselves as having "proper" coaching for youth aged 6-17. I immediately reacted by questioning my own ability as a coach. I am a proper coach? The description implied that I may not be. Reflection is healthy, don't get me wrong but at 7 in the morning and unprepared for it, it made me grumpy to think that someone assumes that they are a proper coach and I am not. I mean come on, would you want Gregg Popovich teaching 6 year old how to do layups. No thanks. Let's get it straight and right. Calling yourself Proper or the Right kind of coach is not for you to decide but is an athlete decision. If they hate their "proper" coach then what? A chest thumping, look at me, elite, approach to basketball screams arrogance. If the coaches are this way then would it be possible that the coaches might be teaching your kids this way as well? Seems like a proper way to teach narcissism.
Ask yourself these questions and if the answer is yes to all of them then you probably have a "Proper Coach"
Is my athlete having fun?
Is my athlete safe?
Is my athlete getting exercise?
Is my athlete learning?